I talk a lot on this site about living in the moment and being with the way it is. Being fully present in the here and now is certainly conducive to peace and happiness. However, there are many who are unhappy with themselves and spiritually and psychologically unhealthy so that being with this moment means being with these unpleasant conditions as well.

Despite that we may not like this moment, it is still the place to be. We cannot correct our deficiencies unless we deal with them as they exist in this moment. Don’t misunderstand, we may require years of psychotherapy so that we can look at our pasts so as to learn why we are the way we are so that we can begin healing. We may need to do a thorough inventory of ourselves, logging our wrongs and investigating why we did the things we did. The point is that we will at times need to look back so that we can improve upon ourselves today.

For those of you who cannot bear this moment because of your own shortcomings and deficiencies, there is some work to be done so that this moment can be a place of refuge for you. It’s difficult to explain to someone who does not understand how it feels not to be comfortable in your own skin. To be so unhappy and miserable inside that this moment is difficult to tolerate. If you can relate to this, you are not alone and I believe that there is most likely a way out of the pain, providing that you truly want to change. I wrote a post called Self Acceptance that will be a good place to start. This entire site is designed to help people be happy and all of the posts on this site will help you to feel better about yourself, your life and therefore, this moment. I do not have one magic answer to make this moment tolerable for you. Unfortunately, it may take time for you to begin to like yourself or to be spiritually and psychologically healthy enough so that the present moment is a comfortable place for you.

I do know that if you do not try to improve yourself or you quit this spiritual journey that you have begun, you will almost certainly not progress towards the peace and happiness you so desire. Remember that you are not alone in your struggles. Many others, including me, are also on the same or a similar path as you. I was once miserable and at times could not bear life or myself. Just a reminder, in case you haven’t noticed yet, I am an extremely happy, grateful and contented person today and have been for many years. There is hope as happiness and peace are possible just as long as we work for them. I wish you the same happiness and peace that I know in this moment.

Tags: Miserable, Negativity, Self-Esteem