When we have a low self-esteem we typically do not have much compassion for ourselves which translates to us using the proverbial bat to beat ourselves for our mistakes or even our humanism. We are all human and therefore make mistakes or act in ways that we later realize were not for the best. This is a normal part of the human condition. A low self-esteem however, may not allow such imperfections without berating ourselves for our actions. Read more…

There may be character and physical traits that we don’t like about ourselves, even if we have an overall good self-esteem. Many people have low self-esteems and therefore can’t stand many of their personal traits. I am all for changing that which we do not like about ourselves providing that the changes are possible and for the better. There are certain traits however that we will not be able to change and still others that will take some time. So, why not be kind to yourself while you’re trying to change that which can be changed and learn to accept that which cannot? Read more…

Metta is a Pali word meaning Loving-kindness or universal love. Anger and ill-will are common roadblocks to happiness. Metta is one of the solutions for our ill-will and anger. I understand that some anger may very well be justified but that does not mean that is helping you or others around you. Please read my post titled “Resentment” for more about justified anger. Read more…

Part II of How Well Do You Treat Others?

Now that you’ve read Part I of this post, there is no going back. You have the knowledge. You know what needs to be done and how well you treat others has been brought into the light. Read more…

Part I

If you want to be happy, you must not only be good to yourself, but you must treat others well too. How often do we blindly plunge forward in our lives without thinking about the consequences that our actions may have on other beings? Most of the work we need to do to be happy pertains to our spiritual and psychological conditions. Here’s the catch…we do not live in a vacuum so we must practice the spiritual principles that we learn in our lives. In case you haven’t noticed, our lives include other beings Read more…

Do you like to be judged by others? Why then do you judge other people? Do you feel truly happy when you’re judging others? There are many reasons why we judge other people. I will touch on a few of those reasons with the hope of creating an awareness upon which you may choose to no longer judge others in the same manner in which you may be presently accustomed. It’s difficult to experience true happiness while negatively judging another person. Read more…

Do you like yourself? Are you happy the way you turned out? Do you wish you were different? Maybe you like yourself, for the most part, but you still possess a few characteristics that plague you. You can certainly try to change yourself to be more of the person that you had in mind but it’s likely that some of the old, undesirable, you will remain. So, what to do? Read more…