Have you ever wondered if venting was a useful way to release your emotions? Simply put, is venting good for you? I guess that depends on what you mean by venting. If by venting you mean screaming, yelling, ranting or raving about your problems, feelings and emotions with anger, then no, venting is not good. Maybe you’re saying to yourself, “yea, but releasing my emotions that way is necessary, if I keep them bottled up inside, I’ll explode one day.” That would be an understandable way to think, but not a wise one. Besides, if you are screaming, yelling, ranting or raving, then to some degree, you are already exploding. Read more…

How do you feel after you react to a situation with anger? Does anger make you feel powerful and in control or embarrassed and out of control or both? However anger makes you feel and whether you know it or not, anger is not conducive to peace and happiness. Read more…

Metta is a Pali word meaning Loving-kindness or universal love. Anger and ill-will are common roadblocks to happiness. Metta is one of the solutions for our ill-will and anger. I understand that some anger may very well be justified but that does not mean that is helping you or others around you. Please read my post titled “Resentment” for more about justified anger. Read more…

Have you ever noticed that when you’re angry it’s difficult to feel anything else? I’m guessing that you’re not feeling very happy when you’re angry. What about acceptance? Have you ever noticed where your acceptance level is when you’re angry? Read more…

I once heard resentment described as “setting yourself on fire, hoping the smoke bothers the other person”. This metaphor has since helped me put resentments in perspective. It’s bad enough that someone may have committed an injustice against us, now we’re going to let them continue to harm us by allowing our resentment against them to fester within ourselves? Read more…

Anger, we all have it, some more than others, but little good ever comes from it. It’s an emotion, a feeling and a shortcoming that breeds more anger and hate and fear. Some of you may think that you need to be angry at times to accomplish certain tasks such as giving someone who deserves it, a piece of your mind! Maybe someone stole your car. Surely you have a right to be angry at them. But does it help? Read more…