Have you ever been afraid to let go of a personal relationship, whether it be a boyfriend, girlfriend, husband or wife or even a platonic friendship? Our fears of detaching may be deep rooted and not so easily remedied. Such clinging and obsessive behaviors may appear unseemly to others who do not understand our fears and apparent inability to let go. What can we do to free ourselves of this bondage so that we can be happy?

You may not like my following answer to the question. As I said your fears may be deep rooted and thus require years of psychotherapy to work through. Hopefully though, this time and effort will pay off resulting in a new and improved you, one who no longer hangs on to relationships too long and who can let go gracefully. There may not be a substitute for months or years of hard work with a qualified psychotherapist, that which I am not, so I can’t help you there. Perhaps you could ask your doctor or others whom you trust for a referral. I wouldn’t shop the yellow pages.

There may be another solution or at least an additional solution to your problem with which I can help you to let go of relationships with dignity and grace. If you are presently caught in the prison of obsession and fear then I’m guessing you won’t much want to hear this answer either Faith… you’re lacking faith in a Higher Power. Stay with me now. The reason we have fears is because we do not trust in God or in other words, the way things are. Even if you have deep rooted abandonment issues stemming from when you were a child you could combat them with faith.

Before you can trust in a Higher Power, you’ll need to establish a belief in one, if you haven’t already, and then you’ll need to learn to have faith in that Higher Power. Then, you will be able to let go of your wants, your will and your life and trust in what your Higher or Greater Power has planned for your life. You will be able to gracefully let go of a person or situation because you trust in the way it is, even if the way it is does not include that person with whom you were once involved.

I could go on here but I have written a few other posts about faith and letting go to which I have listed the corresponding links below. I hope you’ll find them helpful and I wish freedom from the bondage of self.

Letting Go
Let’s Talk About God
Get Faith

Tags: Faith, Fear, Relationships