Many people, who believe in a Higher Power, chose to belong to a particular church or church group. There are others who are recovering alcoholics who choose to belong to a twelve step recovery group. Still there are others, who need help with gambling or over-eating who choose to seek help from the appropriate twelve step program or other support groups. And there are still others who suffer from terminal diseases or the loss of a loved one who belong to a corresponding help group. Are you beginning to see the pattern here?

Fellowship, that’s the pattern. “A problem shared is a problem lessened”, so the saying goes. It is comforting to know that we’re not alone, that others can relate to our feelings and our struggles. We do not always need professionals to help us with our problems. Sometimes, the best medicine is each other. Now, I am not telling you to stop taking your medication or to stop seeing your shrink, so take it easy But, there must be a reason that there are so many successful support groups available to us. It’s because they work. I can’t speak for every support or church group out there, but I do know that fellowship has its benefits and can help us in ways that we cannot help ourselves.

There are many twelve step support groups, such as Alcoholics Anonymous, which has been proven to work for hundreds of thousands, if not millions of alcoholics’ world wide. This program is based on AA’s Twelve Steps which are basically a set of fantastic spiritual principles to help put down the drink and live a healthy, happy, spiritual life. There are countless church groups available to us, many Christian based, many not and these groups are bound by their own particular set of beliefs and spiritual principles, typically Bible based. There are Weight Watchers groups which teach those looking to lose weight how to eat properly while offering group support. These sorts of groups and organizations not only offer fellowship but a main text or method on which the group or organization is based.

There are other support groups, as mentioned earlier, such as grief support and illness support that may not offer any main text on which the group is based but simply fellowship, support and a place where we can express ourselves. There are online support groups for the loss of a pet. These are a place where we can share our loss with those who understand our feelings and who can help us get through the difficult time from a place of experience. These groups allow us to help each other in ways that only someone who has walked in your shoes can. It is powerful and inspirational to see someone struggle with a situation in which you can relate and then see that person successfully work through that situation.

Much of spiritual growth needs to be achieved by our own willingness and desire. No one can give us that. But, once we have that desire, belonging to a group or organization of people, who share in our beliefs and have the same or similar goals, can be extremely beneficial to our growth. We learn from each other. We hear each others ideas and beliefs and can incorporate them into our own practice, if we see fit. Without outside stimuli, all we have are our own thoughts, going around and around in our minds. We need others words and ideas to inspire ourselves, whether it be through books, sites such as this or face to face. But this topic is about the importance of fellowship and the personal interaction with others and the connection necessary to help facilitate change within ourselves.

So, I have a few suggestions. I strongly encourage participation in the comment forum on this site as a way to interact, relate and help one another. You could join a church group, if there is one that shares your beliefs or if you’re comfortable, one in which you could conform your beliefs to fit those of the church. You could also check the section of your local newspaper that lists various support or social groups to see if one sounds appealing to you and you could check it out. If you are struggling with a specific problem or situation, you could find the corresponding help group and join. What do you have to lose? Remember, there will be much that you will need to do by yourself, within the confines of your own mind, body and spirit but there is also much to be gained from the influence, support and inspiration of others, perhaps most importantly, the opportunity to help them. May you be happy and at peace.

Tags: Isolation, Socialization